Masturbation is a very normal and natural act, but it has been wrongfully demonized by our society and has become somewhat of a taboo subject. Masturbation is not only a natural and healthy self-care activity, but it’s something that can really improve your life in many ways, especially for women!
Let’s break down some of the life and health benefits of female masturbation:
1. Increases overall happiness
Masturbation helps improve your overall mood because it increases the level of good hormones in your system. With good hormones like Dopamine flowing through your body, you should feel happier overall. Plus, it’s a natural stress reliever. We know everyone is always looking for another way to minimize stress.
2. Helps you be more comfortable with your body and strengthens your relationship with yourself
In order to have a strong and healthy relationship with someone else, you first need to have a strong and healthy relationship with yourself. Knowing your own body, your desires, and needs will help you understand yourself better. Which will improve your intimate encounters and relationships with others.
3. Natural sleep aid
Many women use masturbation as a way to wind down before bed. Why is this? Women have discovered that after a good self-love session, you’re often pretty tuckered out and relaxed. This happens because of the release of Dopamine during the anticipation of a sexual climax. After the orgasm, additional hormones and endorphins are released, which give you a beautiful afterglow and warm feeling of relaxation.
4. Release sexual tension
Dry spells are common for everyone, whether you’re single or in a relationship. If you’re feeling antsy, angsty, or tense about sex, don’t be afraid to take a little time for yourself (with yourself) to try and release any of those negative feelings you’re having.
5. Improves pelvic floor strength
There are countless benefits to having a strong pelvic floor, which is something that many women are completely unaware of. Achieving an orgasm helps strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can help relieve any pelvic pain or tension.
6. Help relieve menstrual pain
Because a sexual climax will improve your pelvic floor strength, orgasms can also help to alleviate any pain related to your menstrual cycle as well. Plus, the increase in dopamine can help improve your mood when you aren’t feeling your best.
7. Improves your sex life
Masturbation is a great way to figure out what really turns you on without dealing with any judgement. If you’re in tune with your body you will be able to better communicate your needs to a partner, when the time comes.
8. Multiple orgasms
Do we need to go into detail here? Multiple orgasms are amazing, yay for self-love!
Not sure where to start?
There are many different varieties of toys to help you masturbate if you feel that a sex toy or vibrator will make this process easier and more enjoyable. Trying different toys is a great way to mix things up in the bedroom, even if you’re alone.
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Every Zodiac sign is unique, with specific characteristics setting you apart from others. We’ve built this guide to help you find a way to pair the sex toys in your closet with your astrological sign!
Aries (March 21 – April 19) – The Carrie B. Purple Slim G
In their day to day lives, Aries are often come off as brazen and tough. But when it comes to their sex lives, they can be romantics who crave kind and gentle lovemaking. However, just because they crave a more tender kind of love than other zodiac signs, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t afraid to ask for what they want.
Classic design and sensory pleasure come together in this powerful little vibrator. The Carrie B. Purple Slim G is the perfect vibrator to help Aries and their partners enjoy the sugary sweet lovin’ they’re jonesing for.
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Taurus (April 20 – May 20) – Loretta Rechargeable Wand
Tauruses don’t mess around when it comes to sex and romance. One night stands and meaningless flings are not typically their cup of tea. You’re more likely to find them in longer, committed relationships, where they tend to thrive as committed and reliable partners.
Taurses typically want to keep things slow and sensual in the bedroom, so some taurses might be intimidated by the idea of incorporating toys, at least at first. We recommend the Loretta Rechargeable wand because it’s an approachable option with it’s classic wand style and it’s compact size. But don’t worry ladies, smaller does not mean less powerful! Tauruses will enjoy it’s 10 blissful functions and 1 ½ hours of uninterrupted satisfaction.
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Gemini (May 21 – June 20) – The Celine Butterfly Wand
Geminis are known for being fun-loving partners who love to mix things up. They are easily turned on and easily satisfied, so they’re often open to experiment! Plus, they love trying new things and will usually try anything once.
Explore new levels of pleasure with The Celine Butterfly Wand. It’s the perfect massager for reaching the most sensitive places. This bendable Butterfly Wand has 12 stimulating functions and can be maneuvered into a variety of angles for clitorial, anal, and nipple play. Which is what makes it perfect for adventurous Geminis who are eager to play!
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Cancer (June 21 – July 22) – The Kate Rechargeable Duo G Vibe
Cancers are known for being some of the most passionate lovers of the signs, but they are also somewhat reserved by nature. Cancers are bound to love The Kate Rechargeable Duo G Vibe, an ergonomically correct dual-stimulating vibrator that is guaranteed to take your sex to a whole new level. Kate will touch you in ways you’ve never been touched before and quickly become your bedroom best friend!
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Leo (July 23 – August 22) – Crystal Butterfly Dual G Purple
Leos are notorious for being the most sexually adventurous and charismatic of the zodiac signs.
The Crystal Butterfly Dual G Purple is the perfect companion to fun-loving and confident Leos. With a bedazzled base and a butterfly shaped clitorial massager, this vibrator is guaranteed to add some bling to your bedroom!
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Virgo (August 23 – September 22) – The Babe Mini Wand
Virgos are known for their practicality and discretion, especially when it comes to matters of the bedroom. Even though they tend to be private, Virgos are committed to excellence in whatever they pursue, making them unselfish and fulfilling partners.
The Babe Mini Wand is the perfect toy for Virgos because it was designed with fun and discretion in mind! Virgos will feel comfortable incorporating this petite toy into their own self-love routine or during sex with their partner.
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Libra (September 23 – October 22) – The Donatella Jelly G
Surprised that the zodiac’s token party girl can also be an uninhibited sex fiend? We sure aren’t! Whether you’re playing alone or with a partner, Libras are bound to enjoy The Donatella Jelly G. This is not your ordinary vibrator. This is a high-end work of art that will truly stand the test of time.
With easy one touch controls, you can choose from 4 different vibrator speeds, 4 rotating functions and up to 8 levels of pulsating patterns on the clitoral attachment. With adjustable rotating beads, precise movement and a variety of options to choose from, this massager will bring out a Libra’s adventurous side.
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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21) – The Jimmee Lightning Rod
Some might think of Scorpios as being sexually shy, but don’t be fooled – scorpios can release some of the most intense sexual energy of the signs once they’ve harnessed it. Scorpios are considered to have some of the most intense, complex, and intuitive personalities out of all of the zodiac signs.
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Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21) – Ellie G.Vibrator Ribbed
Sagittarius’s are known for being free spirited, easy-going and inquisitive people. They enjoy spontaneity in their day to day lives and in the bedroom.
So grab the Ellie G. Vibrator for some kinky, ribbed spontaneity! Sagittariuses will love Ellie’s bendable nature and smooth top surface, both of which are ideal for G-spot stimulation. Plus, the soft silicone ribbing adds an extra bit of sensation and fun too!
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Capricorn (December 22 – January 19) – No. 15 Power Contour Vibrator Twist
Capricorns are the most cautious and no-nonsense of the signs, even when it comes to sexual pleasure. They approach sex with a practical mindset, just as they approach everything else.
They are always thinking in the long term, so we chose a toy that just won’t quit for our practical Capricorns, the No. 15 Power Contour Vibrator Twist. Even though Capricorns are pragmatic, it doesn’t mean that they don’t enjoy frequent and fun sex. Incorporate the No. 15 Power Contour Vibrator Twist into your personal or partner play time.
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Aquarius (January 20 – February 18) – The Jill Rechargeable G-Vibe Set
Aquarians can get bored easily, even in the bedroom. So, in order to achieve maximum sexual pleasure, you better come prepared with an arsenal of exciting toys, regardless of if you’re an aquarian looking to pleasure yourself alone or with a partner.
Which is exactly why the multi-part Jill Rechargeable G-Vibe set is perfect for the easily distracted Aquarians. Keep them (or yourself) engaged and satisfied with this luxurious silicone vibrating set. Jill’s rechargeable bullet vibrator and the sexy design of the accompanying vibrator will ensure that no one gets bored!
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Pisces (February 19 – March 20) – The Sophia Bendable Duo G. Vibe
For Pisces, sex and sexual pleasure can be complicated due to their sensitive nature. They tend to use sex to work through problems like bad days, frustrations, and even loneliness. Using sex and physical touch in this way can lead to negative associations with physical intimacy, either with yourself or a partner.
We recommend Pisces try and enjoy sexual play for what it is, playtime! Try and clear your mind of other issues and really be in the moment. Enhance your playtime with The Sophia Bendable Duo G Vibe, one of the best toys out there. We promise she can touch you like no one else can!
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With the release of the third Fifty Shades of Grey film, many of you might be eager to try your hand at some whips and chains, a la Christian and Anastasia. But before you go diving into the BDSM scene headfirst, here are a few tips to ensure that your foray into bondage is safe, sane, and most importantly, consensual.
Talk About BDSM Rules
As with any healthy adult relationship, good communication is key here. Before you and your partner embark on BDSM play, the two of you need to have a sit down. Discuss what it is you want, and even pull out a piece of paper and take notes. You need some guidelines that you can both refer to and to agree to what you’re willing to try, what you don’t want to do, and any maybes you both might have. We call this discussing your limits. Firm ‘No’s are known as Hard Limits, ‘Maybe’s are called Soft limits. But remember –if you’re unsure about something, make your uncertainty known. You both need to be 100% on board as BDSM is about trust.
When you’ve established your baseline rules, don’t feel you have to jump right into it. Now that you know what you and your partner are wanting to try, crack open your browser and do some research. I highly recommend this blog post by Debra Macleod. She gives some great tips that allow you to dip your toes in the water without getting soaked.
For more intensive research, ask questions on the FetLife Message Boards. These can prove to be a great BDSM resource with people who are in the inner circle. You can also look for local workshops, and maybe find a ‘munch’ nearby (a Munch is a vanilla meet up for people who live the BDSM lifestyle, but the meet ups are more for asking questions and networking).
A blindfold is such a simple thing, but taking away one of you or your partner’s senses will enhance the others. You could also buy a simple pair of bondage cuffs (not handcuffs, see BDSM tips below). Simple restraint of the wrists, either alone or with a blindfold, is a good starting point.
If you want to try more, add a feather to your repertoire, or maybe some ice for sensation-play. If you or your partner are interested in trying out impact play, start with a spanking. Many times that’s more than enough to excite you both, and you can easily judge how light or how hard your strikes are – something that can be difficult with a paddle or a flogger.
Safe Words and the Stoplight System
For beginners it’s best to avoid a safe word and use the stoplight system throughout any type of play. ‘Green’ means continue, of course, ‘Red’ means stop, and ‘Yellow’ means ease up, or check in on how either of you are feeling. Even the person who is topping can call out red or yellow if they feel uncomfortable at any point. Lastly, always listen to your partner. Do not ever continue play if red is called, and stop and check in if yellow is called.
Once you get more experienced in BDSM play, and have done more research, then safe words may be used instead of the stoplight system. Always make sure you pick a word (or words) that won’t accidentally be called out in the heat of the moment. And it’s also recommended that you ask the person bottoming what their safe word is regularly through play, to make sure they are still cognizant enough to USE it if they need to. Being the top or dominant partner holds a lot of responsibility, and the bottom or submissive partner needs to feel as if they can call a halt or a slowing down of all play if they need to.
As you continue to spice up your BDSM play, make sure you also do your research. If you find that either of you aren’t really into something, don’t feel bad or try to force anyone into doing anything not within your comfort zones. Also keep in mind that bondage might not be the right fit for you. But if it is – Happy Playing!
More BDSM Tips:
- Handcuffs are not good for beginners – not even furry ones. If used improperly, one can actually damage the nerves in the wrists. Instead, invest in a nice set of padded bondage cuffs. You don’t have to spend lots of money on them, but you definitely want to make sure that whoever is going to be wearing them is comfortable.
- If you or your partner find that impact-play (for example, spanking) is enjoyable, you could invest in a nice paddle that has fur or velvet on one side. The texture of either is wonderful, and you could choose to run the fur or velvet over your lover’s skin for titillating sensation, or use it soothe after a form paddling. When using a paddle or flogger, however, I do recommend that you test it against your leg so you know what it feels like, and how much force to use. Also, stay away from the spine and the lower back where the kidneys are to avoid injuring your partner in a not-fun way.
- Nipple stimulation is a lot of fun. There is a huge variety of clips, clamps, and suckers on the market for you and your partner to try. Clips (also commonly called pincher clamps) employ next to no pressure, and many have beautiful jewels and other embellishments attached. If you and your lover decide that you want something that has a former grasp, adjustable clamps are a great option. Just make sure that they have rubber grips, and that they actually open widely enough if your partner’s nipples are on the larger side. Vacuum suckers are also a wonderful alternative to clamps. The sensation is similar, and leave the nipple highly sensitized, but they won’t leave your lover’s nipples sore after they’re removed.
- Rope is a bit more advanced, but even the tying process can be highly erotic. If this is something you and your lover want to try, I highly suggest finding tutorials on tying online. Also, Bondage Basics: Naughty Knots and Risque Restraints by Lord Morpheous is a gorgeously-illustrated, easily readable guide that offers up a bit of history, step-by-step guides to several common (and not-so common) ties, and different types of ropes used in this art. Also, as I had mentioned above, check out FetLife for rope workshops available by you. Think of these workshops like classes; the people running these events are highly trained, and both you and your partner will be able to practice your rope-tying in a safe, relaxed environment under the watchful eye of someone who knows what they’re doing.
Tips on Storing and Caring for Your Toys
Now that you have purchased a sex toy, you’re probably wondering how to take care of it – or at least, you should be!
Below are several tips on keeping your toy in good condition, and making sure that it is properly cleaned in between uses.
Sex Toy Cleaners
Most of the packaging that a toy comes in recommend you wash your toys with soap and water in between uses. However, what they don’t tell you is that some soaps can actually damage the surface of your toys. When the friendly sales clerk at your local adult shop recommends you purchase a toy cleaner along with your toy, they’re not just trying to make more money off of you. Toy cleaners are specially formulated to be safe for use on all types of materials, and many double as a cleaner for your body as well. But which should you buy? There are tons of options available to you, but here’s a quick guide on the different types you might encounter.
A spray cleaner is your most basic type. Most are antibacterial, which is something you should look for. Some have pleasant scents, like Pipedream’s Refresh Strawberry Scented Toy Cleaner, or Mighty Tidy Antibacterial Adult Toy Cleaner by Jelique. Others have aloe added to their formula, like CalExotics’ Universal Toy Cleaner with Aloe. A note on the latter, however – some women find that they are allergic to aloe, so if you know this to be true about yourself, try their regular cleaner. It works just as well.
To use a spray cleaner, simply remove the batteries in the toy (if it’s battery-operated), then spray the surface of the toy thoroughly. Wait a moment, then wipe the cleaner off. You don’t have to rinse the toy, but it doesn’t hurt to do so.
The foaming cleaner is a step above a spray. Like mousse, you simply dispense a small dollop on your fingers, then wipe it on the toy. Let sit for at least 30 seconds, then rinse with warm water. System JO Refresh Antibacterial Toy Cleaner is unscented, and one bottle goes a long, long way. If you’re into organic products, try Intimate Earth Green Tea Tree Oil Foaming Cleaner. Not only is it organic, the tea tree oil that it contains is a natural antimicrobial, which makes it an excellent choice for anal toys.
If you travel a lot, this type of cleaner is ideal for you! You don’t have to worry about pesky FTA regulations (any liquids in a carry-on have to be 3.4 oz or smaller!) and they tuck neatly away in your purse. While a lot of companies offer wipes, one of the best is Aneros Antibacterial Toy Wipes. Aneros is a company devoted to making male prostate toys, so their wipes are sure to clean your toy thoroughly.
This is a little different than your usual toy cleaner. UVee is a sanitizing device that uses UV-C light to kill 99.9% of bacteria on pretty much anything you put inside it. Available in two sizes – the portable GoPlay and the larger HomePlay – it not only sanitizes your toys, but is a lockable storage box that offers 1 or 3 USB ports for charging. It’s not cheap, but if you’re concerned about how clean your toys are, it’s a worthwhile investment.
That said, if you decide to use soap and water to clean your toy make sure the soap is very mild. Do NOT use Clorox Wipes or Rubbing Alcohol on your toys!!! Not only will bleach and alcohol damage the toy surface, you don’t want either in your body. No matter how much you rinse, there will still be residue left behind, and the delicate tissues of the vagina can experience dryness or even burning if you use either of these methods to clean your toys.
Discretion is usually important to most toy owners, and as such, you want to invest in some sort of storage item to hide away your toys. There are several types of storage options out there, but two types are predominant.
Most high end toys come with a velvet or satin pouch to store your toys in when they’re not being used. If not, you can usually purchase one from your local adult store. It is recommended that you use these pouches, even if you have usually put your toys in some type of toy box, because different materials placed in close proximity to one another can cause your toys to melt. Of these materials, toys made of SensaFeel, UR3 or Cyberskin are usually the most likely to have this kind of reaction. (As a side note, this is why silicone is so great; it’s far sturdier of a material, and most can be boiled or put on the top rack of your dishwasher for cleaning. Be careful to read the packaging on a silicone toy; if it’s boilable or dishwasher safe, it will be clearly marked as such.)
Toy boxes come in a variety of sizes and colors, and most have a combination lock that can be used to keep little fingers away from your toys. If you don’t want to deal with a combination lock, some boxes like the Joyboxx Locking Toy Box use a small padlock to keep others out – just make sure that you don’t lose the keys! Devine toy boxes, while a little on the pricey side, are another non-combination option available, and better still, offer you plenty of room for toys and lube. Just be careful, because they’re pretty enough that someone might mistake it for a fancy makeup case!
The UVee, as mentioned above, is also a wonderful option to store your toys, and allows you to sanitize and charge them all at the same time!
Making sure you keep your toys clean and store them properly will ensure that they last you a long, long time, and therefore protect your investment, and your health!
Whether you’re happily married or single, there’s no reason you can’t carve out time for yourself this Valentine’s Day. We’ve created this list of 5 ways to treat yourself this Valentine’s Day, so anyone can treat themselves on February 14th!
Book yourself some time at your local spa—or, if you don’t have the time (or the funds) bring the spa to you!
If you have a bath tub at home, draw yourself a steaming bath and grab some awesome-smelling bath bombs or bath oils. Light some candles, turn on a favorite playlist, and let yourself soak away stress for a while.
No bath tub?
That’s okay, too. Invest in a nice-smelling, quality body wash and give yourself an extra five minutes in the shower. It might not seem like much, but all-too-often that little bit of extra time is a luxury.
Follow up with your fluffiest towels, some great moisturizer or lotion, and your comfiest pajamas, and you have a recipe for a relaxing evening at home.
Who says you need someone else to buy you a bouquet?
Check out your local florist (or a farmer’s market—they almost always have gorgeous blooms!) and buy yourself a pretty arrangement. You don’t have to stick with roses, either (unless they’re your favorite, of course!) There are tons of blooms that you can put together for a bouquet that fits your own unique tastes.
Better yet, why don’t you go one step further and look into some easy-to-care-for houseplants? Depending on where you live and availability, you can find something that will provide color and fragrance that will last longer than any cut arrangement.
This might take a little planning on your part, but check out your local college or community center to see if they offer any type of fun classes you can take. Cooking, pottery, knitting—learn a new skill, and you might just wind up finding yourself a new hobby!
Google is your friend here; just type in some possible classes you might be interested in taking, and add ‘near me’ in the search bar. Even if you live in a small town, odds are you’ll still find some type of class that will be of interest!
- Buy Yourself Something Sexy
Now, lingerie might be the first thing that comes to mind here, but there are plenty of options out there. Maybe you buy yourself a new dress or top that makes you feel like a million bucks. Or that pair of shoes you’ve been eyeing for a while but keep talking yourself out of buying. Maybe you’re feeling adventurous and purchase yourself a new sex toy. Or maybe a steamy romance novel is more your speed. Whatever you choose, as long as it fits your definition of ‘naughty,’ you’re on the right track.
Yes, you read that correctly. Celebrate this Valentine’s Day with your favorite ladies, whether you’re all single or partnered up.
And go over-the-top.
Make reservations for lunch or dinner at a favorite restaurant or one you’ve been all dying to try. Make them Valentines like you once did in grade school. Buy them each a flower, or chocolates, or something equally holiday-themed. Get all dressed up—even if you’re going somewhere casual.
Have a little fun with your nearest and dearest gal pals, and celebrate the platonic side of love this Valentine’s Day!
With the holiday season upon us, stress levels are sure to skyrocket as we tackle shopping for our loved ones. Well, before you panic and grab a bunch of gift cards last minute at your local drugstore on Christmas Eve, take a moment to breathe, and read on for some truly outside-of-the-box gift ideas that show a more…personal touch.
Buying a sexy gift for your other half should probably be one of the easiest items on your shopping list to knock out, right? But when it comes right down to it, a great deal of the time you wind up drawing a blank. What do you get that special someone without going overboard? Because it does matter. You wouldn’t buy a guy or girl you’ve only just begun dating something super expensive and over-the-top—like jewelry, which indicates a level of commitment that might not have been reached at this point in your relationship. And buying a woman lingerie is more a gift for yourself, because you’re picking out something that you want to see her in. (Not to mention sizing: not every lingerie manufacturer sizes their products the same, and you risk buying your other half something that either doesn’t fit, or something that winds up offending her.)
So what do you do? In today’s more sex-positive society, think about gifts that will enhance your bedroom activities.
There are tons of options for every couple out there, and for every budget:
- Massage Oils
- Flavored lubricants
- Stimulating Gels for Him and Her
- Pheromone Perfume and Colognes
- Couples’ Vibrating C-Rings
- Toys for Both
If you are so lucky as to have a brick-and-mortar adult store nearby, it is highly recommended that you visit in person. Good shops have staff who know their merchandise, are friendly, and best of all, are patient and willing to help. If not, and have to shop online, don’t just jump onto Amazon and click on the first item that fits your requirements. Not all items shown on Amazon (or eBay, for that matter) are the real deal. Instead, search for the actual manufacturer’s website, and shop their catalogs. Reputable companies abound, and you can be sure that they use quality materials, and you will receive exactly what you ordered, instead of a shoddy knockoff. Impulse Novelties has three gorgeous lines that fit every budget, and not only are their toys made of high-quality materials, they have something for everyone. From the affordable Nina Petite toys (The Nina Petite Pink Curvy G and The Nina Petite Purple Bunny) to the sleek and sexy No. 19 Rechargeable P-Spot Vibe Set for him, to the popular and fun The NEW Jimmee Purple Lightning Rod as seen on Bravo TV’s Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce.
There are so many options out there to make the holidays fun and sexy, and relatively stress free. After all, you still have to deal with all those holiday get-togethers and parties—shopping should be the last thing you should have to worry over!